The Hobbyist
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To be sincere and to haveĀ passion.
If thereās one thing that I sincerely yearn to see more of in my life, itās people that openly and excitedly talk about things close to their heart. I think thereās no easier way to become a person who is genuinely interesting than to be genuinely interested in something.
When somebody has an avocation that they pursue for its own sakeāāāwhen thereās no pride or arroganceāāāI could sit for hours listening and learning about it and them. Even, and almost especially, when itās something that I previously thought mundane or hadnāt even thought about at all.
And I feel so lucky to stumble upon this kind of person because they seem like a rarity. I think I can understand why, though. There are a number of reasons, both societal and personal, that make the hobbyist surprisingly elusive.
Passion
āFollow Your Passionā is a mantra thatās too-often spoken and seldom acted upon. Itās a bad ideaāāāif not a dangerous oneāāāto be chanting this to both ourselves and our youth. Itās far too easy to become anxious over the pressure of trying to not only find what exactly your āpassionā is, but then to somehow jump through the hoops to make it your career.
The regrettable result of this is that we submit to the pressure. If we arenāt able to reach the difficult goal and end up working elsewhereāāāheaven forbid corporateāāāthereās an unneeded sense of failure thatās created. We succumb to the expectations of those around us instead of our own.
In addition to this, once you find yourself actually having downtime, itās used poorly instead. We spend our time in front of screens, consumingāāāwhether itās media, or sports, or our friendās lives. It can be tempting to think of these as healthy pastimes, but they arenāt. They can be a nice wind-down from the work we donāt really enjoy, but you are instead witnessing the work of others instead of creating something for yourself.
And then thereās sleep, too. From the exhaustion of the 9-to-5 that we oblige in order to pay the bills. It can feel as though we simply donāt have the time or the energy to actually maintain a hobby.
We can roll our eyes at time management, or doubt ourselves from following through, or honestly just be a bit afraid of beginning new things, but itās more than possible to start small. Allocating a few hours every week can be enough to start developing a new skill.
Sincerity
But if you manage to get far enough to find your passion, youāre only halfway there if you keep it hidden from the world. Itās understandable too, though. A harsh truth is that people too often reserve themselves, using self-deprecating humor as a way to distance themselves from others.
Sarcasm and irony are used to deflect the idea of being honest and sincere. We would rather have people think poorly about a false version of ourselves than know what they actually think about who we are. Parody can only go so far, though, as it needs an original to mock in the first place.
That isnāt the only reason we find ourselves from having difficulties about being open about our affections. In childhood we might find ourselves teased or ignored when we divulge our interests without reserveāāāor even worse, in adulthood.
Such a negative response is also rooted in insincerity. Those who laugh at passionate people are the ones who lack passion themselves. Itās far easier to justify fears by sticking in the comfort zone of mockery, instead of trying things out.
The obvious answer to this is to not interact with these sort of peopleāāāto cut them out of your life. But thatās easier said than done. Itās more practical to, instead, try to find others that are unafraid to talk about what they love. There are the added benefits of having something to already bond over, as well as opportunities to collaborate.
Hobbies take place in the cellar and smell of airplane glue.Ā
āāāJohnĀ Updike
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**Further Reading:
** 100 Cheap Hobbies
Donāt Follow Your Passion