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The Hobbyist

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To be sincere and to haveĀ passion.

If thereā€™s one thing that I sincerely yearn to see more of in my life, itā€™s people that openly and excitedly talk about things close to their heart. I think thereā€™s no easier way to become a person who is genuinely interesting than to be genuinely interested in something.

When somebody has an avocation that they pursue for its own sakeā€Šā€”ā€Šwhen thereā€™s no pride or arroganceā€Šā€”ā€ŠI could sit for hours listening and learning about it and them. Even, and almost especially, when itā€™s something that I previously thought mundane or hadnā€™t even thought about at all.

And I feel so lucky to stumble upon this kind of person because they seem like a rarity. I think I can understand why, though. There are a number of reasons, both societal and personal, that make the hobbyist surprisingly elusive.

Passion

ā€œFollow Your Passionā€ is a mantra thatā€™s too-often spoken and seldom acted upon. Itā€™s a bad ideaā€Šā€”ā€Šif not a dangerous oneā€Šā€”ā€Što be chanting this to both ourselves and our youth. Itā€™s far too easy to become anxious over the pressure of trying to not only find what exactly your ā€˜passionā€™ is, but then to somehow jump through the hoops to make it your career.

The regrettable result of this is that we submit to the pressure. If we arenā€™t able to reach the difficult goal and end up working elsewhereā€Šā€”ā€Šheaven forbid corporateā€Šā€”ā€Šthereā€™s an unneeded sense of failure thatā€™s created. We succumb to the expectations of those around us instead of our own.

In addition to this, once you find yourself actually having downtime, itā€™s used poorly instead. We spend our time in front of screens, consumingā€Šā€”ā€Šwhether itā€™s media, or sports, or our friendā€™s lives. It can be tempting to think of these as healthy pastimes, but they arenā€™t. They can be a nice wind-down from the work we donā€™t really enjoy, but you are instead witnessing the work of others instead of creating something for yourself.

And then thereā€™s sleep, too. From the exhaustion of the 9-to-5 that we oblige in order to pay the bills. It can feel as though we simply donā€™t have the time or the energy to actually maintain a hobby.

We can roll our eyes at time management, or doubt ourselves from following through, or honestly just be a bit afraid of beginning new things, but itā€™s more than possible to start small. Allocating a few hours every week can be enough to start developing a new skill.

Sincerity

But if you manage to get far enough to find your passion, youā€™re only halfway there if you keep it hidden from the world. Itā€™s understandable too, though. A harsh truth is that people too often reserve themselves, using self-deprecating humor as a way to distance themselves from others.

Sarcasm and irony are used to deflect the idea of being honest and sincere. We would rather have people think poorly about a false version of ourselves than know what they actually think about who we are. Parody can only go so far, though, as it needs an original to mock in the first place.

That isnā€™t the only reason we find ourselves from having difficulties about being open about our affections. In childhood we might find ourselves teased or ignored when we divulge our interests without reserveā€Šā€”ā€Šor even worse, in adulthood.

Such a negative response is also rooted in insincerity. Those who laugh at passionate people are the ones who lack passion themselves. Itā€™s far easier to justify fears by sticking in the comfort zone of mockery, instead of trying things out.

The obvious answer to this is to not interact with these sort of peopleā€Šā€”ā€Što cut them out of your life. But thatā€™s easier said than done. Itā€™s more practical to, instead, try to find others that are unafraid to talk about what they love. There are the added benefits of having something to already bond over, as well as opportunities to collaborate.

Hobbies take place in the cellar and smell of airplane glue.Ā 
ā€Šā€”ā€ŠJohnĀ Updike

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**Further Reading:
** 100 Cheap Hobbies
Donā€™t Follow Your Passion

About B. Kenneth Brown

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